Rodney was my maternal Grandfather and a lovely man; I had a wonderful relationship with my maternal grandparents so the title of this post is a little misleading as there was a lot to like and learn from him/them.
However, one of his pearls of wisdom got me thinking about a conversation I had with my eldest brother over Christmas.
This is almost not worth bothering with a post, but over the years I’ve found that things that are obvious to me are not always obvious to everyone else, which is why I’ve started writing them down.
As a child, on our big Saturday trips from Ruthin to Chester in the car, Grandad would huff (he was a great huffer and puffer of cheeks) when someone overtook us. He would then explain that this overtaking was largely a futile manoeuver as the driver would get caught in traffic again and we would usually catch him and ultimately the overtaker would not get too far ahead.
So, as a child, I observed this and Grandad was usually correct.
And as an adult who drives a small sports car, when I overtake someone, Grandad is still usually correct particularly on the shorter journeys.
But every now and again I get lucky and overtaking makes me huge gains, which is why I persevere.
And when someone else does it to me and I slowly catch up with the driver in traffic, I don’t feel smug, I mentally congratulate the driver because at least sie had a go at getting further ahead than sie actually did!
So, back to the conversation I had with my eldest brother.
I suspect he is embarrassed at my persistent “controversial” postings here and on social media.
“Oh stop posting on social media” he whined; and I got mad because writing posts allows me to vent some of my frustrations, and it provides me with at least a semblance of control now that, for the first time in my life, I have become a member of an oppressed minority.
But there’s more to it than that; like the effort of overtaking in a car, most of my posts will make little difference to the world (except only perhaps to my mental health).
But maybe one day, one will make a big difference!
So I will keep trying!
Never give up!
Don’t let the caption of the cover photo put you off. 🙄😁